Chapter 3: Involving and supporting children
Talking with children
The following are important pointers to keep in mind when talking with children.
- Always ask parents if you can talk to their children about what’s going on and offer support to them.
- Let children know their questions are welcome. Answer questions honestly, using clear and simple language.
- Don’t provide false reassurances. Instead, ask what their understanding is and respond to any misconceptions.
Is it okay if I speak with your daughter to help her understand what’s happening right now?
You can ask me any questions you have about what’s happening.
What’s your understanding of what’s happening with your mom right now?
Even though it looks like your daddy is just very tired and sleeping, he’s actually dying. Do you know what that means? When someone dies, it means their body has stopped working and will never work again.
- If their parents are very upset, you can play an important role by reassuring children this is natural. Children often find it difficult to see their parents upset. Let them know their parents are still able to care for them.
Your mom is very sad right now. It can be hard to see her so upset, but it’s okay. She’s upset because of what’s happening to your dad. She’s still able to take care of you.
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